We all have a little crazy in us, but some people cross the line. When someone you're dating says or does something psychotic, it can be pretty scary; especially considering you're often in intimate and private places with that person. But craziness itself is a spectrum—there are people whose behavior is just unsettling at best, and there are people whose behavior can truly be dangerous. It's hard to know who a person really is just from a couple of first impressions and dates.
Many of us have our own stories of dating psychos. That moment of realization that you're dating a nut may never be forgotten. These internet users share their often frightening stories about when it hit them that the person they were with was not right in the head. Perhaps you'll be able to relate to a few of them. How fortunate if you don't.
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#1 Chivalry Is Unnecessary
I once dated a girl who told me she never wanted the guy to pay for her dinner. I'm all for splitting the bill or alternating from time to time, but to never pay for it even once? That's a little bit too much.
Maybe it's just the fact that I'm used to being the one in the relationship to treat my partner. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad if I were the one treated this time around... But it gets kind of awkward whenever I try reaching for the bill and she throws a mini fit because she assumes I think she isn't capable of paying.
#2 Phone Paranoia
A guy I'd been seeing seemed to be exactly what I was looking for. He was tall, athletic, a little bit shy, but a gentleman for the most part. The only problem was, he would get super paranoid any time he caught me on my phone. He would always be like, "Who's that?" or "Am I that boring that you need to text someone else while you're with me?"
I ended things the moment he told me, "That better be your mom or else."
#3 Killer Vibes
I had been dating this guy for a while, and I thought things were going really well. I'll never forget the day he took me to see Aladdin. After the show, we went back to my place, and everything was normal. We were just talking, and suddenly he got a weird look in his eyes.
He said, "I can't see you anymore. I'm afraid I might hurt you." I thought by "hurt" he meant emotionally; like cheat on me or something. I kind of laughed and told him not to worry; I told him I was a grown woman. His voice changed, and he looked even worse. He said, "You don't understand. I've been having these dreams where I hurt you. I mean really hurt you." Then, he jumped off the couch and ran out the front door.
I never saw him again. I never tried to call him because it really shook me up. I guess I should be glad it stopped there. He just seemed so normal up to that point.
#4 If He Talks Like A Sociopath...
On 9/11, my ex and I heard about the planes hitting the Twin Towers on the radio while we were on our way to a coffee shop. After the second report, I said, "That wasn't an accident." He proceeded to call me stupid and rambled on and on about how I could possibly believe the plane crash was intentional. Of course it was an accident, he would assert, saying that nobody would do that on purpose. We get to the coffee shop, where they had wheeled out a TV on a cart and had it in the middle of the restaurant so patrons could watch what was going on. We sat and watched. Eventually one of the towers came down, as we were watching the live footage.
Immediately, I burst into tears. I knew I had just watched innocent people get hurt. Plus, my brother was on a flight when it happened, and one of my friends worked in the financial district in NYC. I was distraught. Anyone with any humanity would have been distraught.
He leaned over and put his arm around me. I thought he was trying to comfort me. Then he hissed in my ear, "You're embarrassing me and making a scene. Stop crying or go sit in the car."
That was the moment I knew I was done. We lived together, so I was biding my time and planning to leave. A few weeks later, during an argument, he pinned me against the wall and said, while laughing, "I wish I could punch you in the face right now." The next day I packed my stuff while he was at work.
He was broken. He was soulless.
#5 Not Such A Kind Hippie After All
#6 Who In Their Right Mind Thinks They Are A Werewolf?
#7 Spitting Is A Crime In Some Countries
#8 Breaking Up With Your Own Stalker Is Hard
He told me to text him my work schedule every week. He would call me at work and wait in the parking lot for me to come out at the end of the day. He also wanted to know how much I was making each paycheck.
One time, I texted him my work schedule, and he misread it. He freaked out non-stop for six hours, searching for me. He called my whole family and was about to alert the police. It was his own fault he misread what I had texted him. I broke up with him in public because he would not believe it when I broke up with him in private.
#9 Leg Trauma
#10 Time Travelers Are Dangerous
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#11 No Means Yes
Being a clueless boy with no experience, I figured she was kidding and didn't attempt anything after our date. When I dropped her off at my house, she gave me a hard time for not heeding her advice. We made out, and she told me I should go for it next time.
On our next date, in my car, I had the sunroof open so we could look at the stars. I tried to make a move with her, and she pushed me away, saying, "What are you doing? Do you really think I'm the type of girl you can force yourself on whenever you want?"
To this day, I have no idea if she was just testing me. To be very clear, there was no way I was going to try anything after being told no. No means no means no, and that's final.
The whole thing left me so confused, and this date wound up being the last time I saw her.
#12 Apologize Or We Both Die
I did apologize, and soon after that, I removed myself from that relationship.
#11 Stage One Clinger
#13 A Girl That's Worth The Grudge
Then, she bragged about using me for money to our mutual friends. I don't generally hold grudges, but for her, I made an exception.
#14 The King Of Gaslighting Takes It Too Far
Then He'd gaslight me and tell me he didn't do anything of the sort the night before. He was the king of gaslighting. It got to the point where I was seriously doubting my own sanity because he would deny everything.
#15 Living Multiple Lives
We were in a long distance relationship. While visiting him, I found handwritten love letters that were VERBATIM what he had written to me. The only difference was there were different women's names on each one.
#16 Why Didn't She Unblock Herself?
#17 Never Trust A Woman Who Kills Animals
I took her, and her four-year-old boy to a carnival, and the kid won some goldfish. They were in a clear plastic bag like the ones pet stores use. The boy was super excited. On the way to the car, without saying a word, she slammed the bag on the pavement, bursting it, and started stomping on the flopping fish. The boy was instantly hysterical. When I asked her why she did it, she replied, “They probably would have died anyway.” Then she called a few weeks later to ask why I had not called her.
#18 Macho Much?
#19 Always Go With Your Gut
I found out later from her roommate that she was playing a long con with me and was only pretending to be into everything I liked in an attempt to domesticate me. Also, when I broke things off with her, she apparently got so angry that she smashed a shot glass against their door.
When her roommate went to sweep it up, she said, “No, leave it. Those are the shattered pieces of my heart.”
Safe to say I have no regrets and have never doubted my gut instinct since.
#20 He's Either A Psycho Or A Mystic
#21 Flawless Logic
Then they asked me to check the front page of the paper, and I discovered she had been accused of throwing a 4-year-old child out of an apartment building. And said she couldn't have done it because she had been dating me and no longer had feelings for the child’s father.
It was about then I realized she was a psycho.
#22 The Girlfriend Test
I went, “Huh?” and he just explained how it was all a test of girlfriendhood, to see if I was obedient and loyal. I said "Bye!"
#23 Some People Never Grow Out Of Tantrums
The next week, she called me up as if nothing had happened.
She was 33 years old at the time and was screaming like a 5-year-old because she didn't get her way.
#24 Never Share Your Bank Info
#25 So Insane It's Actually Funny
He tried to make me apologize to him for not caring enough after he cheated on me. He wanted me to buy him and his lover a pizza to make up for it.
#26 Omnipotence Is Not Attractive
It was sick and seriously disturbing that the only reason he wanted kids was to warp their minds.
#27 Saying She Has Trust Issues Is An Understatement
After we were done eating, we walked outside, and sure enough, I see my girlfriend's car in the parking lot. Her driver's seat was leaned all the way back, and I could see that she was in the driver's seat trying to hide. By that point, I was already kind of weirded out, so my friends and I left.
As soon as we backed out, her car started backing out as well. She began to follow us through the parking lot. I texted her, asking what was going on, but she lied and said she was with her mom, hanging out.
Needless to say, I ended things shortly after that.
#28 Taking Jealousy Too Far
She took my phone while I was on a call and threw it from the ninth floor because she heard I was talking to a woman. My mom was on the phone.
#29 Two Partners For The Price Of One
#30 His Secret Relationship Status Could Not Have Been Scarier
#31 Pregnancy Is Not A Joke
She told me she was pregnant. She told our families she was pregnant. She started to buy maternity stuff because she was pregnant. We even contemplated engagement because she was pregnant.
She was not actually pregnant.
#32 That's A Burn
#33 A Hypothetical Murderer
#35 A Strange Form Of Revenge
I broke up with my ex. She slept in her car in the parking lot of my apartment so that she could rudely wake me up at 8 a.m. This went on every day for a week.
#36 I'll Take Red Flags For 1000, Alex
#37 A Man And His Machete
I moved to a new state within a week. Just packed everything I owned into a truck and left with my dog. Best decision I've ever made.
#38 Film Foreshadowing
#39 No Dogs Allowed
#40 When Your Wife Is An Attempted Murderer
#41 That's What Is Called A Truly Insecure Man
#43 When "Bad Romance" Is More Than Just A Lady Gaga Song
He started scream-crying in the car, saying that I was sending him a secret message about our relationship.
I tried to calm him down, but he was convinced that I thought we were in a "Bad Romance" and that this was a telltale sign of some impending breakup. He was still inconsolable, and his parents had to intervene.
#44 An Appropriate Time To Ghost Someone
She wanted to try for children after a month of dating. When I told her she must be joking, she starting crying, claiming that I didn't love her. I just said, "Okay then," and ghosted.
#45 Sympathizing With Killers Is Not A Good Sign
He told me how he broke into the Columbine memorial site to put up memorials for the culprits.
